Just sit for a moment, take a few deep breaths, and try to imagine what your perfect life would be like!
For many, a perfect life would include the ideal partner, endless wealth and the time to enjoy it. For some, it’s about the perfect body, the perfect house, the perfect family or the perfect spiritual practice.
In exploring the topic, this blog ended up as a joint exercise as Dean and I are at really at opposite ends of the scale. Dean started the blog. He looks for perfection in more of a spiritual sense – a priest, guru, sadhu in many previous lives – he is a seeker of knowledge and spiritual wisdom, which is cool, but sometimes not practical in our material world. His view of perfection, because he doesn’t seek it in your standard sense, is what we see ‘out there’.
Me, I’m more of your ‘A’ type personality, so I need harmony in the aesthetics of my home, my garden and I need to get it right! I’m half living in the ‘out there’ search for perfection, but learning to step back … sometimes. Luckily for us these opposites usually come together to find an acceptable solution, but a bit of fire may be involved for us to find the middle path and we may need to compromise a little.
Luckily for both of us, daily perfection is the enjoyment of nature in our garden – awe inspiring and a perfect representation or the divine in everything – a perfect rose, a bumble bee or a blue fairy wren.
But what is the definition of “perfection”?
One of the definitions I came across is that perfection is “having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; of being as good as it is possible to be.”
Some of the associated words that come up are words like ideal, model, without fault, exemplary, best, ultimate.
Now it seems to me that some people appear to be born with all of these accomplishments – on the face of it anyway. You know those individuals people envy because they are famous for their sporting achievements, their intelligence, their beauty, their wealth, their philanthropy – or all of these all in one lifetime! These may be the people we try to emulate, but what we see on the surface is not always what is going on underneath.
For many of us achieving “perfection” is something that is so out of reach we cannot imagine ever reaching the pinnacle in this lifetime. And in all honesty is it something that is achievable or even worth pursuing?
Is perfection achievable or is it just another illusion and distraction?
We are living in a time where anything and everything is available; you just have to trade some energy to get it. We can Google the answer to any question we’ve ever had, to increase our knowledge, to bolster our self-confidence and add to our intelligence. We can buy whatever we want, we can have a face-lift, a tummy tuck, a house by the beach, a personal trainer, a life coach – the list is endless. We can even buy a guru or a spiritual path if we so choose. Some would say we are lucky, but in reality, no matter how possible or hopeful we feel, will we ever be satisfied?
If we can never be satisfied, if we are always striving for the next best thing, one thing after another, is perfection even within our reach?
How does this drive our life?
How does this affect our self-worth?
Fundamentally, we are lacking, and this is how society views itself generally. Certainly, in life, there is a general theme of people with high anxiety, who strive for perfection, sometimes in all things, but maybe in just one thing. People who have such beautiful spirits, such amazing souls, but who feel they are worthless or useless and are endlessly worrying about disappointing others, and disappointing themselves, and who are continually beating themselves up for being less than.
Does this then mean that even if we are the most positive person in the universe, we may always be looking at the glass as half empty? Always waiting to be topped up because there’s never enough? Looking for those last few drops to fill that half empty vessel, because if we can fill it, then we will be satisfied, we will be whole.
But what if you could see the glass half full?
Is the glass half empty a side-effect of the teachings of abundance? And is there a fundamental error in what and how we are teaching? So often spiritual writers and channels talk about creating or enlarging a vessel to attract what you need and want in your life. In doing so are we also encouraging dissatisfaction wrapped up as “spirituality”?
Dean and I ran abundance workshops for many years and they would attract very well-intentioned, and often spiritual, attendees. Obviously, we ran them because we needed to create abundance ourselves and we felt we had found the key which we wanted to share with others, but also because people so often talked about and portrayed an energy of lack.
But what we could never understand was that even though we thought we knew the motivations of some, the things that people perceived they were lacking was very often for physical “stuff” or monetary gain. Certainly, there were people who wanted to manifest better family relationships or a new partner, but the number of people who continued to come to the abundance workshops and who wanted to manifest something they didn’t have materially, was endless and maybe that was partly our doing!
Perhaps this is a poor example, because obviously, we didn’t get to know the people who didn’t need or want to come, but as we continued to run these workshops, we hoped that people would view what they already had as the glass half full, and instead of trying to fill it to the top with “more stuff”, they would start to work on their bigger picture – spiritual abundance!
What is spiritual abundance?
That’s really not a big question, but it might be life-changing or perception-changing. It is accepting that what you have and where you are right now is where you need to be and just perfect for you right now!
We are perfection incarnate. We were created as a spark of the divine, but our journey is accepting this in this lifetime so we can focus on more important things.
That’s it … we are already perfect … just as we are.
So the affirmation is “I am perfect, just as I am”!
But this is not as easy as it sounds and I have no doubt many of you will squirm even at the thought of trying to say this. Try saying it to yourself in front of the mirror! This could really be a sticking point and shows your level of lack of self worth or dis-ease with yourself. Don’t be hard on yourself though! You chose to be this way and to see yourself this way and this is part of the journey. Be gentle and kind to yourself!
In continually searching for perfection we are telling ourselves that we are not complete, we are lacking and if this is our mindset, then the chances are it will always elude us.
And the chances are that there is also in our mindset the thought that something better could be just around the next corner, no matter what we have or where we are in life or in spirit. But really that is the illusion of life for humans in the 21st Century.
On the other hand, if spiritual perfection is your goal then that is available everywhere you care to look and right in this moment, because it is not a thing but a state of being, and that requires a shift in the way of thinking.
Sometimes we clutter up our lives with all the things we think we need to make our lives or our spiritual path perfect, when it’s been there all along, just waiting for us to take a breath, stop running around in small circles and just be the perfect soul we already are.
We are already Perfection Personified!
Deep breath in … and sigh it out … Repeat after me “I am perfect, just as I am”.
Dean Creedy has been a spiritual seeker for over 40 years and has had a focus on the path of the yogic traditions for nearly 25. He was drawn to the mystical and metaphysical side of the Indian and Eastern traditions, gaining deeper understanding through the grace of teachers and masters upon the path. In 2003 he became part of these traditions by initiation and adopting and embracing his spiritual name.
Melanie has used homeopathy for 30 years and has been in practice since 1998. Her physical journey began with poor health from childhood, leading her to explore natural therapies. Her journey with homeopathy has seen her run a general homeopathic clinic and The Children’s Ear Clinic in Western Australia, but always the esoteric side has been strong and clear.
Melanie’s spiritual journey started long before that and she certainly remembers a deep interest in God when she was under 10 years old. That journey has taken her through an exploration of many facets of spirituality, to a point where she realised her path had to be her own and her walk was alone. As a deep thinker and a passionate blogger, many of these thoughts become blogs in an effort to demystify the myths which are created by so called gurus, looking to hold the attention of a seeker.
Melanie works with people on their life path using soul talk and soul listening and intuiting esoteric vibrational remedies to remove obstacles on the path. This can relate to physical, mental and emotional issues which are part of our ‘soul choices’ for this lifetime. Her approach is simple but deep, grounded, thoughtful and pragmatic. Not too much airy fairy speak going on here, just a drawing together of the strings of your life. Melanie offers distance consultations via phone and skype to allow people Australia-wide to access her services.
In 2007 Dean and Melanie were drawn to a tree change in Southern Tasmania, creating an environment where they could achieve a deeper understanding of their respected fields and paths.