Empathy: Listening from the Heart

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Some souls incarnate to experience life and all of the breathtaking opportunities that we can immerse our physicality into. As a planet of tourism and possible hedonism you can understand why we have gained ourselves a 5+star rating as a “must visit” destination.

But not all visitors have come here to be enticed by its endless pleasurable possibilities. Some have chosen to transcend its glimmer and use the opportunity as part of the growth process of ascension or what is often now referred to as moving from 3D to 5D.

If you are reading this, then you have probably chosen a fully paid up physical experience for this lifetime, so running away to sit in a cave in the Himalayas and meditate for the rest of your life is not going to get you the brownie points this time around – in most cases.

What we choose to do with our life and how we undertake and work through the contracts we have created especially for this incarnation defines what happens in subsequent lifetimes, should this not be our final learning ground. This means that making the right choices and living consciously is essential.

The Path of the Heart

The only real way to make changes that will carry us forward and not increase karmic debt is by accessing the path of the heart and most of you are already aware of this.

But why is this?

Working from the heart center as a focus for a lifetime, or even one single choice in a lifetime, is without attachment, meaning that it carries no motivation to make you do anything that is not in your own highest good. It is without ego.

What are the main access points for this path?

The three access points for the heart are empathy, compassion and love, and  walking consciously in any one of the three directions will set in motion a chain reaction compelling the others to awaken into consciousness.

Most of us know about compassion and love. These are more easily understood and actioned in our lives. But what about empathy? There are many out there who are termed “empaths”, but how do we work with empathy on our path for good?

Empathy is to feel what others are expressing and experiencing, and this energy is so easily lost or dissipated due to distraction or lack of understanding. The path of empathy can often be the most natural route to begin with, but at the same time, the pain of another can be the most devastating to experience.

Empathy can also be an unconscious path; one of feeling another’s pain but not understanding, not managing this overwhelm of energy through the heart and not using this gift or experience for any potential incarnational benefit to either party.

Listening

While there are many ways to use the gift of empathy for benefit, let’s take a practical approach to something that most of us take for granted, that of listening.

Silence is a very levelling and grounding space but we often think a silence requires filling, because it can feel uncomfortable or unnatural. However silence can be our most profound teacher and not just through our own personal meditation.

I have observed that due to our frenetic relationship with the world a conversation with another is often a battle to get across an idea, as opposed to valuing and immersing ourselves in another’s experience or opinion. This is frequently a “coffee shop” behaviour, but it can also happen in those times when someone really needs us to listen. They may not ask, but the energy of the moment should raise our empathy antenna and it can’t do that if we are distracted and disengaged, coming from the ego rather than the heart.

Sometimes we listen but we don’t hear, perhaps because we are listening to get to a point where we can have our say, present our own opinion. We may not be connected to the energy of the conversation, we may be distracted by shopping lists or thinking “oh yes, that’s me too”!

Listening is an art and listening with empathy – feeling without connecting into the ego –  from the heart, is a tool which enhances the experience of connecting to another.

If this is something you find a challenge, then here is a practical technique to try and adopt if you find it works for you.

There are many types of conversation, some passive and some not so. My suggestion is that when you are speaking passively, before you reply to a question or continue a dialogue, you allow a space of 3 seconds of silence for the energy of the moment to play out.

If the dialogue is less passive then apply 5 seconds of silence before answering, as this will validate the conversation but also dissipate any aggression or harm that may be intended.

The spoken word is potent, but we often speak before thinking about the consequences of our words, especially when replying to a comment or question.

Taking time to be at one with a person through the heart is perhaps the most powerfully significant gift that you can bestow upon another. Being conscious in a conversation honours the other participant and values their opinion.

And not filling the spaces but adding natural spaces of your own may allow you to consciously realise things you may have otherwise missed about a situation. It’s easy to listen when we put our mind to it, but to always be consciously engaged in listening no matter the time, the place or the person, requires work to reap the benefits.

As with all parts of the journey that is the spiritual path, meditation or at least taking time to breathe can be beyond value and reward, never more so now than in any other time in history. And taking time to meditate and breathe is the practise ground for listening and connecting with empathy, compassion and love.

 


Dean Creedy has been a spiritual seeker for over 40 years and has had a focus on the path of the yogic traditions for nearly 25. He was drawn to the mystical and metaphysical side of the Indian and Eastern traditions, gaining deeper understanding through the grace of teachers and masters upon the path. In 2003 he became part of these traditions by initiation and adopting and embracing his spiritual name.
 
Dean trained to become a yoga teacher in India and Perth, Western Australia and from the turn of the new millennium offered regular classes, workshops, and retreats, covering all aspects of yogic & spiritual life. 
 
In 2007 Dean and Melanie were drawn to a tree change in Southern Tasmania, creating an environment where they could achieve a deeper understanding of their respected fields and paths.
He is first became initiated into Usui Reiki in 1994 and trained to become a Reiki Master 1999. 
 
Dean’s approach to the spiritual path and all the pitfalls and challenges is a practical and grounded one, sidestepping the often airy nature of current trends, and always looking for balance in all things. 
He works intuitively through the grace of the Masters of many traditions and a session with him may cover many aspects of this, and perhaps other lives, awakening to and deepening your Spiritual path or the causes of blockages in this life. 
He does not channel loved ones or noted people who have passed on from this life or has any idea or interest of the next lottery numbers!