Many years ago I (Dean) remember meeting a life path teacher who reminded me that when we are given a name as our identity, it carries the imprint of this incarnation with it. So why do we seem to have this preoccupation with shortening or abbreviating our names instead of using the full or incarnational name?
An example of this is one close to home, and that is of Melanie – my Soul Whispering partner in life – who so often gets shortened to “Mel”. This is frequently undertaken by people without asking or without thinking and it is part of our Australian culture that if we can shorten a name, we will. This may not be something that you would consider wrong or strange, but energetically the inherent blueprint of the original name can be dispersed.
While you may hate your given name, this is the energy that was selected for you for your time on the planet. The choice to shorten a name should be taken with consideration and understanding of the energy that goes with all forms of a name you intend to adopt or be known by. Luckily, I guess, nobody has been able to shorten my name convincingly!
Does it really matter?
Interestingly, abbreviation of names is often perpetrated by the parents who have chosen the name! Sometimes a name is chosen to knowingly be shortened, for example our son was named Thomas after the previous three generations of Thomas, but was always going to be known by everyone as Tom. There are situations, however, where he will introduce himself as Thomas, often in professional circles, so this is evidently a situation where he feels the need for the energy of Thomas rather than Tom.
One of the reasons that we should make a conscious choice to use our full name or to abbreviate is that if we accept this without thought, we can suffer from a diluted identity or lack of self. Both of these are breeding grounds for the ego to infiltrate.
On the other hand, we may actually out-live, or grow beyond our name. This is a particular practice that takes place when you choose to follow a specific spiritual person, group or deity, leaving behind your past worldly persona and stepping up to and embracing a higher vibration of a name. Certainly, I can claim this experience in this lifetime, and it can either be a liberating thing or a confusing one. I will leave that thought with you, but perhaps a consideration of how life has been with a shortened or changed name or altered spelling of a name will tell you whether the energy is correct.
One of the areas I have immersed myself in over the years is the use and abuse of words in the many magickal traditions.
The practice of whispering a few words into someone’s ear (by a practitioner) can either carry with it significant healing or a devastating result. The reason so much weight can be put behind a simple phrase is the intent that amplifies or directs the power.
But surely if we are not practitioners of anything, can the results be the same.
Take for example the simple word “stop”.
The word implies that something should not move forward or cease, ie stopping at a crosswalk, or stopping smoking; these are positive uses of the word. But if you then add into that the extra intent of not being happy, or loved, then the energy moves from positive to destructive or abusive.
So often we say things without even really thinking about them, and if we are saying one thing and thinking another, are we not sending mixed messages energetically to what we want to happen?
So is it the word or the intent that we should be careful of?
Both is the simple answer, because what we have also done over the many centuries, changes in language and cross-pollination of cultures, is create energetic fields around words, much like giving a certain level of energy or life to something.
The most straightforward situation that comes to mind is of any relationship where the dominant partner carries abusive or controlling energy, and much of the language that is then used is harmful and damaging. If this continues for an extended period, the energy that is being directed and ultimately absorbed by the recipient, can physically affect and harm.
One of the biggest problems we have these days is that of lack of time and lack of focus. This can mean that a throw-away line, a chance statement or a thoughtless phrase dropped in at the end of a conversation can plant a seed which can have long-term damaging consequences. This is something that I (Melanie) in clinic time and again, particularly where a parent is talking about a child – often in front of them. Even those terms of endearment like “it’s a tough life” to a baby lying happily in a pram or “you silly old thing” are taken on board and processed in some form. If you hear something enough it becomes embedded in the psyche and the cells.
As with most things we speak of on the life path, the answers or remedies to most situations can seem to be straightforward, but not always easy to implement.
Many people who have found and embraced the yogic lifestyle may also have experienced the chanting of mantras or kirtan, the repetition or singing of Sanskrit names or devotions. Most of the time the person singing may just be caught up with the group they are with and not even know what they are saying. For the most part, this can be a beneficial practice, elevating the emotions and also bringing healing in some cases.
I have used the practice of Japa mantra or repeating a mantra over and over with a specific outcome, and I can recommend it, but I would also say that I made an effort to understand what every word and phrase meant before practicing. But again your words have power and should you not know what it is you are saying?
Some of you may remember Masaru Emoto and the work he did with the healing power of water. He showed energetically the effect both positive and negative words had on the structure of water. If you haven’t seen this, then it’s worth exploring with it’s beautiful and amazing photographs which physically show us the power of our words to create and change energy.
So just like our thoughts, which have an impact on our own outlook, our words come from a place which shows how we are deep inside and they envelop those around us with either positive or negative vibes. Not only should we be careful what we say to others and what we choose to repeat, but we should be aware of what our default setting is as a reaction to things others say. Is our first reaction positive or negative, where are we really coming from and what resonance does that, often unconscious, reaction carry?
We should be thoughtful and considerate but equally we still want to find room to be spontaneous and genuine!